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Goals you will actually stick to!

I want to talk to you about goal and intention, the difference between the two, how they interact and how to actually achieve your goals once you set them. 

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TIPS SUMMARY

  1. Set goals and intentions
  2. Break goals down and schedule each bit
  3. Anchor your intention EVERYWHERE

I want to talk to you about goal and intention, the difference between the two, how they interact and how to actually achieve your goals once you set them. 

The difference between goals and intentions can be a bit tricky to figure out, but basically goals are focused on the future. Goals are things you hope to achieve. You might have a date that you want them to be achieved by. Intentions are in the present moment, how you want to achieve those goals. What feeling do you want to have while you’re working on these goals? How do you plan to arrive at a destination or specific achievement and intentions? Goals are external achievements and intentions are about your relationship with yourself and others.

I want to talk to you about is setting your goals so that they are achievable. I would recommend breaking them down into different categories. So for example, I like to use household goals. Do you have work you want to do around the house or do you want to declutter? Do you have a renovation project that you want to get started? I also like to have a category for further education goals. Do you want to go back and do that degree or do it online or are there some online courses that you have in mind? Is there some evening class that you think would be quite interesting? What are you doing in terms of further developments for yourself? 

Tied quite closely to that is self-care goals. So you might have a separate category for this. This might be a fitness regime or yoga regime or it might be that you want to go get a massage at least once a month or treat yourself to a spa day every three months. Maybe it’s that you go for a walk every single day at lunchtime. 

And then I like to have the categories of business goals and money goals. You may decide to have them combined. I prefer to have them separated out because I think of my money goals as my personal as well as work budget. The business goals are just work related. So business goals might be do you want to get a new client a month or do you want to sell X amount of products or do you want to be better at setting your work boundaries? 

Money goals. Do you want to pay off X amount of your debt or do you want to make a lump payment off of your mortgage? Or do you just want to live debt free or do you want to just be able to have an income that’s higher than your expenses? 

Try to think of a couple of goals for each of these categories. And I don’t want you to feel overwhelmed because the next thing, once you’ve got some ideas of your goals, is to make them SMART. 

Some of you might have heard this in different areas of your life, but smart goals are Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, Time-based.

I’m going to start with the A here when we’re talking about this. Attainable, meaning achievable, meaning realistic. So whatever your goals are, just please make sure that they are achievable because you will not benefit at all from setting a goal that is completely unachievable. Because what will happen is that you will feel disheartened when you are struggling to achieve it. What you might want to do to work around this is have a good, better, best goal. That can help if you want to at the same time set achievable goals but also have something really high to aim for. For example, if it’s that you want to lose some weight, maybe the good goal is that you lose 10 kilos in the year, the better goal might be 15 kilos and the best goal might be 20 kilos. Maybe you set yourself a reward according to which one of those you’ve actually smashed. 

The S stands for specific. Again, we’ll use the weight example because most people have struggled with this as a goal at some point in their life. Don’t just have a goal that says you want to lose weight. Be specific about how much weight you want to lose. Otherwise, how do you know if you’ve achieved your goal or not? 

M for Measurable. Again, you have to be able to measure the goal. So how to make sure that you’re staying on track, make sure you’re hitting your milestones?

R for Relevant. What is it actually what you want to achieve? Is that the main problem? Is it that you want to lose weight or is it that you want to build muscle or is it that you want to actually go down a dress size? This is not the same as losing weight because as we know, muscle weighs more than fat. So you might stay the same weight and still be able to lose a dress size if you focus on muscle building.

And Time-based, this is key. This is one of the things that I bang on about all the time is having a deadline or having milestones where you’re checking if you’re on target or not. So for example, if your goal is to lose weight, the smart goal would be to say something like, ‘I want to lose two kilos a month for the next six months by eating well and going to the gym at least two times a week.’ 

So there you have a lot of things that are measurable. Um, a lot of ’em you’re not just saying what your goal is, you’re breaking it down into specifics so they’re measurable, you’re setting times to it and you’re saying how you’re actually going to do it. That’s part of the tangible part as well. How were you actually going to do it? 

It’s all fine and dandy setting a new year’s resolution, for example, to lose weight, but you have to have a plan. What I recommend, once you set your goals for all these different categories, once you’ve made the goals smart, the next step is to schedule each bit. So you’ve already got the time in there, you know what your milestones are, you know how much you want to lose per month and you know how you want to do it. So the next step would be to schedule in all of your gym classes or your gym system sessions so that they actually happen. You put them in your diary like they are any other appointment with a client or whatever. They are not changeable unless in case of emergency and you schedule in your to do list a monthly way in session.

If you, for example, wanted to have more me-time, more self-care time. The smart goal version of that could be, ‘I will have a massage once a month and go to yoga once a week.’ I would suggest in that case to make it actually happen is to schedule your massages for the next three months, and then schedule your weekly yoga classes into your diary. 

If your goal is, for example, to earn more money, then your smart goal could be, ‘I will increase my income by 10% over the next three months by doing one new product launch and running a promotion.’ You have measurable amounts. Hopefully those numbers are based on an attainable goal, they’re relevant, they’re time-based, they’re specific. 

How I would recommend achieving  your goals is breaking them down and putting them into your to-do list or into your schedule. 

Then set your intentions. How do you want to actually achieve these goals? With what mindset? What are you trying to get more of? Are you trying to get more stability? Are you trying to get more balance, more courage, more love, more kindness, more clarity.

For example, my intention for the year 2019, which were just coming up to at the time of recording, was peace of mind. I had a turbulent couple of years to say the least – challenging. Not altogether bad, but just very, very transitional, let’s say. And so my aim for 2019 was to get peace of mind. All of the goals I set for this year were all with the ultimate aim of getting more peace of mind. And that is also how I wanted to work towards my goals. 

Have a little think about what your intentions are. I always laugh about the word intentions. I don’t mean it in the Victorian sense. Like what are your intentions with my daughter? 

What is the overall feeling that you want most at the moment?

Is it clarity? Is a consistency? Is it ease? Is it freedom? Is it time? Is it money? Have a little think and write down what your intentions might be. And then I want you to anchor your intention everywhere. Make a blend of oils that makes you think of that intention and diffuse it in your oil burner. Or make a collection of crystals that imply that intention or have the word printed out and put it on your notice board, or have it written on your notebooks or someplace where you see reminders of it all the time. So that you are constantly motivated to have that mindset, for example, peace of mind in my case. And to use that intention to achieve those goals that you set for yourself. 

So in summary, what we’ve talked about is the difference between goals and intentions. How to set both of them, breaking down your goals and making them smart goals, and then scheduling them everywhere. And then anchoring your intentions everywhere.

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